Long-Distance Relationships: How to successfully Keep, Manage & Sustain

Communication:
It is possible to maintain a long-distance relationship if both partners are committed to communicating...

Emotional closeness and physical affection are the foundations on which romantic relationships are built.
Sustaining any relationship takes dedication and hard work. Long-distance relationships are especially challenging.

Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires the commitment of both partners.
Physical affection is removed from long-distance relationships, and couples must seek other ways to grow and develop across the miles.
Realistic Communication
1. Draw up a weekly schedule for special communication time. For example, every week around the same time, the couple will meet for a chat, or maybe there is a nightly goodnight phone call. Be realistic and don�t expect to stick too strictly to a schedule. It is merely a guide to help keep you on track.
2. Agree to write weekly or monthly letters or emails that recap the happenings that were forgotten or overlooked.

Be Spontaneous
3. Mail your mate a box with thoughtful trinkets and forget-me-nots. Things such as photos, cards or love letters tell the other person you are thinking of her.
4. Send unexpected e-cards (electronic greeting cards available online, many for free) just to say hi or that you are thinking of him. A light-hearted e-card lightens the mood after a spat.

5. Discuss how you, as a couple, are going to approach being separated for long periods. Listen to each other. This might avoid conflict later.

6. Exchange daily routines and schedules. This avoids rounds of phone tag or cell phones ringing at inopportune times.

7. Add an element of excitement to your relationship. Surprise your loved one by planning a secret rendezvous. Make your scheduled time together special by changing the atmosphere. Meet somewhere between your respective cities to spend a full day or weekend together.

Note to:
*.Be honest about your true thoughts and feelings. Don�t be afraid to express fear or doubt. Realize that you cannot know what your partner is doing every minute of every day.

Trust the other person to be truthful and loyal so you can have a peace of mind.

Breaking News: U.S Soldiers Arrest two Boko Haram Members [See Photos]

Soilders have arrested a young Boko Haram member and one elderly one .The arrest was made by the U.S Soldiers on internal security operation.

According to The Sun,The boy, according to the Director, Defence In�formation, was arrested during a cordon-and-search operation at Any�ibe in Logo Local Gov�ernment Area of Benue State.
Two rifles, three locally fabricated pistols and 61 rounds of special ammunition were said to have been recovered from the teenager during the operation. The arrested gang member was also said to be undergoing interrogation in custody.

Boko Haram Did Not Kidnap The Girls: Asari Dokubo

People like Asari Dokubo and those who reason like him are finding it difficult to separate the deadly activities of the Boko Haram sect from politics.

I, Olu Famous, was working in a Newspaper firm in Rivers State when Asari was terrorising the Niger Delta, I know many things people say about him are not true. But he should know that Boko Haram is not interested in stopping election, but stopping education, especially girl child education. If you can't understand this, you are yet to grasp the mess we are in.
Before the local election in Borno State there was governorship and presidential, Boko Haram did not kill anybody.

If Asari and other Niger Delta activists continue to support Goodluck Jonathan blindly rather than encourage him to do all in his power to stop Boko Haram, Nigeria may collapse. Yorubas never supported Obasanjo blindly, they condemned him openly whenever the need arise. There is too much tribal sentiments today!

Below is Asari's position and why he thinks the girls were not kidnapped by Boko Haram... Which way Nigeria?

The Next Steps in Ending Boko Haram � by Senator Bukola

The Next Steps in Ending this Insurgency � by Senator Bukola Saraki

As the struggle to reunite the young schoolgirls abducted from Chibok by Boko Haram insurgents enters its third week � like many Nigerians and our well wishers around the world � I welcomed the reports that the Federal Government has agreed to accept foreign assistance to aid in this mission as I suggested last week.

At this decisive moment, when Nigeria�s handling of the menace of terrorism has the attention of the international community, President Goodluck Jonathan as the Commander-In-Chief must take advantage of this opening to not only utilize the expertise and equipment from our friends and allies in bringing back the abducted girls � we must take this campaign a step further: we must take the fight right to the door steps and camps of the terrorists.

Nigerians have shown that we will not be cowered by the evil of this insurgency. Our global commitment during this campaign to #BringBackOurGirls has demonstrated our combined keenness on preserving the unity of our nation. We must build on this � or we shall lose our newfound momentum.For too long, many of our fellow citizens have lived in a deplorable state of insecurity in the country. Too many lives of our loved ones have been cut short.
Too many varieties of injuries have been sustained. Still, too many families have been torn apart by terrorism within our borders.
But enough has become enough. It is time to end this insurgency once and for all.

Regardless of politics, creed, or ethnicity, we must continue to give our Commander-in-Chief, our military, and all our security agencies our full support.

I call on Mr. President to further entreat the support of the international community in ending the insurgency in the country for good.
We must spell out in as clear as possible terms what our challenges are and have been so far in bringing an end to these extremists, and seek out the assistance of our friends and allies with the skills and tools to supplement our efforts, with clearly defined rules of engagement.

With the help of the Almighty, and the knowledge that we are fighting for a just cause: to rescue our nation from the clutches of terrorism � I have no doubt in my mind that we can win this struggle, and by so doing, leave a peaceful and more united Nigeria for our children and those that will come after.

6 Proven Ways To Make Someone Fall In Love With You [You Must Read]

6 Proven Ways To Make Someone Fall In Love With You [You Must Read]

When you are playing the dating game, winning the �right catch� is mostly left to luck. At times, competition can be tough, especially if you are vying for someone who is already surrounded by �more than enough� attention from the opposite gender.
If you want to impress somebody so much that they do not have much choice but to choose you, why not use some �science and research backed� ways to have them fawning all over you? Yes, let us reveal some sure-shot tricks that will make the scales tip in your favor. What�s more? They are backed by research. So, take a look: #1. Spill the beans:
If you want to build a strong and everlasting bond with someone, over a short period of time, then you need to share your secrets with them. Noted researcher, Arthur Aron discovered that sharing secrets brings you closer to each other. Letting people in on your secrets tells them a lot about how you feel about them. They are made to feel special as part of your inner circle of trust, and they instinctively feel closer to you since they now share a secret with you

#2. Excitement beats pleasure:Do exciting stuff together, like paragliding or trekking or dancing or anything adventurous. Going to the movies or an art exhibition can be reserved for the time after you have wooed the prospective partner.
Ditching the familiar, and exploring the exciting new things can bring two people very close. So, use this trick to get closer to the one you want.

#3. Capture them with your eyes:
Making eye contact is of prime importance, and research backs it too. It has been found that an unbroken gaze into the eyes of a stranger of the opposite s*x, can increase feelings of passion between the two. So, eye contact can send much stronger signals to your prospective partner than those hundreds of text messages. Eye contact is so important that when couples were given a test, as a part of a relationship research, it was found that those who were blindfolded and not allowed eye contact registered a 50 per cent decrease in the level of attraction that they felt for their partner.

#4. Dim the lights:
Renowned American psychologist, Kenneth Gergen, did a research on how �darkness� can make people less inhibited. He found that couples are likely to talk, touch and hug each other more, when they are plunged into a dimly lit room. So, if you are looking for ways to make someone a little more comfortable, and less uptight, dim the lights, use candles and let the hazy glow of the night work its magic on them!

#5. Right tricks to shy or look up:
Yes, keeping the chin down makes ladies appear more attractive and feminine. So, next time don�t forget to tilt your head down a little, when the man of your dreams walks towards you. And, here is a trick for men- titling your chin up will make your appear more masculine and macho. Obviously, this needs to be affected in moderation or it will just make you look comical!

#6. Red is your colour:
Several researches have been made on the effects that different colours have on both the genders. And, most of them have discovered that red is your safest bet if you want to get someone�s attention.

Red makes people appear more desirable, whether it is for dating or mating! Men find women in red extremely attractive, and when ladies see a man wearing a red outfit they are drawn towards him. Thus, wearing red to a date increases your chances of getting closer to your guy or gal.

Science has plenty of such amazing tips and tricks that you can use, but in the end all that will really matter is that you stay true to yourself, and your partner.

If you know any more secret tricks to woo a loved one, do share those with us by leaving your comments below:

Advise me please! I�m Tired Of Keeping My �Thing� Until After Marriage

Please advise me! I�m Tired Of Keeping My �Thing� Until After Marriage

I'm a 25 years old lady. Growing a good relationship has been a daunting challenge for me, it just won't last. Sometimes my fellow ladies take him from me or lack of s�x causes our separation even after letting him know from the beginning that I am totally for a no s�x before marriage relationship. At first they would accept only to walk out when I have fallen in love.
Some of these men have been good to me but s�x is the only barrier. Some said I�m too rigid. I have really worked on my character because at some point I thought I was lacking some good morals. My friends always advice me that s�x keeps relationship going.

But I want to know, can�t one have a healthy relationship without s�x?

As a virgin, if I desire for a man�s affection, is it wrong? I really need advice because I�m heart broken now. And I�m beginning to have a rethink on my determination to keep �my thing� until after marriage.

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Omotola shared a makeup free photo and a strong worded message on the Boko Haram saga

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Omotola shared a makeup free photo and a strong worded message on the Boko Haram saga

Omotola shared a makeup free photo and a strong worded message on the Boko Haram saga

�Good morning friends. Woke up with so much on my mind. Where do I start, there is so much they are not telling you� So much politicking with people�s lives and destinies. What a wicked world. There is no more time for fake �I belong� behaviors. This is war! War on our freedom and sanity. Now�s the time to think selfless and act. We are not fighting aliens, humanity is at war with itself! Power, money, fame� Greed. If you won�t fight for yourself, fight for your loved ones! #stopthebloodshed. #findthegirls. #regainourhumanity #regainourpride�

See this Photo:- Would You Rock this shoe?

Would you???

Nobel Laureate, Prof. Wole Soyinka seeks global solution to terrorism in Nigeria

Nobel Laureate, Prof. Wole Soyinka, yesterday gave a nod of approval to the Federal Government�s acceptance of assistance from United States of America in the ongoing efforts to rescue the abducted students of Government Girls Secondary School, Chibok, Borno State.

Soyinka wants other countries of the world to assist in ending terrorism in Nigeria.
The Nobel Laureate, who spoke on a live programme monitored on Cable News Network (CNN), described the Boko Haram insurgency in the country as an international crisis that requires all efforts to address, adding that President Goodluck Jonathan should have asked for the United States� assistance much earlier in view of the seriousness of the situation.

According to him, the problem was allowed to linger for too long which has now turned the situation into a festering case. �I don�t believe in false pride. The problem has been allowed to fester for too long. We are dealing with monstrosity, the kind we�ve never known before. �The situation has gone beyond the capacity of the Federal Government and it has to be internationalised,� he stated.
While admitting that the kind of security challenges the nation is faced with now are difficult to deal with anywhere in the world, Soyinka added, however, that such was not a reason for government not to address the problems. �I think anyone at all who feels the threat has got to take this government to task on any level. �Many things could have been done, abduction, terrorism, suicide bombing. These are very difficult situations to deal with, but it is easy to anticipate. Those who are coming out on the streets now, they have always been conscious to some extent, but they didn�t realise how soon the inanity of the action will catch on them.�

Soyinka explained that the situation at hand had gone so bad now that it will be difficult to predict when or how things will eventually end, adding, however, that the government will not forget this experience in a hurry.

�Where it will end I don�t know. But one thing is certain, the President and his cabinet cannot sleep easily after what has happened to them. It is not possible either, anyway, to pretend.�

The Nobel Laureate who refused to be dragged into the controversy of the conduct of the First Lady, Dame Patience Jonathan, also argued that the present crisis can neither be called a Christian or Muslim crisis, but simply a case of people involved in bestiality.

Soyinka added: �I have called attention to this problem a number of times as a paradox to what is happening. It is to tell the Muslim fundamentalists they should desist from this bestiality and that the Christians and also the Muslim are the same. The issue is complimentary. It starts from the fundamentalist fascism assumption that you can dominate the environment where you are operating. It is a mentality.�

SEE Pictures of Suspected female Ritualist set ablaze by a mob in Abule Egba

Can the Lagos State government please make jungle justice a crime punishable by many years in prison?
This can't continue happening. We as citizens can't keep taking the laws into our hands. Other wise innocent people will suffer too. The pics from this scene is so gory, I don't know if I should share it.

The woman pictured above was accused of attempting to to kidnap the primary school pupils in the Ekoro area of Abule-Egba, Lagos yesterday May 6th. Eye-witnesses claim the woman stopped the kids, who were aged 7-10 years as they were going to school, and asked to take them to school.

Then a female hawker in the area, suspecting the woman was up to no good, alerted others in the area who then surrounded the woman and started asking her questions. They say the woman they were her children but couldn't give their names and the direction she was taking them wasn't where their school was...plus the children said they didn't know her and before anyone could stop it, they descended on the woman. Beating her to a stupor and then setting her ablaze.

See the gory pics from the scene after the cut...will take it down in a bit...

Why Some Ladies Are Cheap And Have More Sexual Partners

Yes, Nothing happens for nothing these days. When you see ladies who can�t seem to keep their legs close and are in a hurry to open up for any man that come there way, something is responsible. But what is that thing?

According to a new controversial study, it has revealed what the most feminine party of your body tells about your personality and why hips don�t lie. To understand if the diameter of the woman�s hips reflects her nature and relationships with the men, the British scientists offered 148 women to participate in their research.
All of the women had at least one s�xual partner. And they give answers to sensitive questions such as:
The age at which they lost their vir�ginity;
The number of s�xual partners they had had;
Emotional significance of s�xual relationships they had had;
Then their body parameters were measured:
hip circumference at the widest point and the waist circumference at its narrowest point. Hips wider than 36 centimetres were classified as wide, while hips below 31 centimetres as small.

Funny enough, the study has found that women with wide hips are more likely to have one-night stands and more s�xual partners in general. And the wider the hips are, the more one-night stands a woman had.

According to researches, such a phenomenon can be explained from the biological point of view, as the birth process for such women is generally easier and less traumatic than for the smaller-hipped. Whilst women with smaller hips psychologically programmed to avoid any potential fatal childbirth-related injury they largely eschew impermanent s�xual contacts.

This latest research is published in the Archives of S�xual Behaviour and many observers are saying it�s true.

Ten Mistake Ladies Commonly Make While In A Serious Relationship

(1) Taking your Guy for granted:
Guys love attention too! Do things for your Guy. You may cook him a special dinner, arrange a romantic date, dress up for him (or dress down depending on the nature of your relationship), give him a surprise gift or do whatever you think he would like. Romantic gestures can play an important role in keeping your man happy. When your man is down or depressed, be his support and shoulder. Give him motivation or pampering when he needs it. (2) Not being Respectful and Honest: Give your man the respect he deserves and never belittle him in front of others. Hiding secrets from your Boyfriend can harm your relationship. Even if you have done something you regret, it is better to tell him than let him find on his own. Lies often get caught and he will lose all that trust he had on you.
(3) Trying to keep him away from his friends or Family: Are you someone who always looks for excuses to keep your Man away from his friends and family? Do you object when he tells that he wants to go out with his Buddies and insist that he spends time with you? If so, it�s time you change. Just understand that his friends and family are his part of life much before you. Be friendly with his family and friends but never cross your limits by being over friendly or dominating.
(4) Not understanding your Partner: One main characteristic of a good girlfriend is that she understands her partner well and her Boyfriend can rely on her to be there for him when he needs her. That is where good communication and spending quality time with your Guy regularly plays a vital role. Develop the comfort ability factor so that he feels at ease with you enough to share everything. Listen to his needs, worries and passions. Also trust him with your concerns and problems. Be supportive to your Guy�s Career and Hobbies. Understand his problems and pressures. Try to adapt to his likes and interests (This does not mean that you have to give up yours).
(5) Being Superficial: Don�t try to be someone whom you are not. Let your Guy see the real you.
(6) Comparing with Ex and talking of Past: Many girls commit the mistake of comparing their current Boyfriend with their Ex. This is one of the best things a girl can do if she wants to chase the Guy away. Even if you are playing the game to see how your Guy would react or if it was a harmless comparison made without thinking, your man would most probably take it as a sign that you have not fully moved on from your previous relationship. Even if he does not take it in that manner, comparisons are definitely going to hurt his ego and your relationship with him.
(7) Not giving enough time to the Relationship: Girls want stability in relationships. They want relationships to end in the altar rather than break ups. Do not start talking about marriage and children too fast in your relationship. Allow things to take its natural course. Cherish your time together and do not rush your Guy demanding commitment from him in the initial phases of a relationship. Just try to be optimistic and enjoy your romance than worry about future.
(8) Being clingy: Are you a clingy girlfriend? I don�t blame you, this is one major mistake many ladies commit. I have even known girls who go to the extent of stalking their guys. If you are constantly around your man or talking to him always on phone, you need to stop. I have even seen girls who keep wrapping their arms around the partner in public and private alike as if declaring to the world that, �He is my private property. Keep away!� Your partner may like your attention for some time but after that he might get annoyed. If you do not draw the line at constantly wanting to be around your Boyfriend, then he will look for ways to get away from you rather than spend his time with you.
(9) Not caring much about Appearance: Be presentable always. Make sure to look good and presentable in front of his family and friends. Dress decent without being trampy. When you are on a date out or spending time with him, make an effort to dress to impress. Take good care of your appearance and hygiene.
(10) Being too controlling: Allow your Man to make the first move. Men like to take the lead. Allow him to pursue you than the other way around. Let him initiate and plan the dates than you doing it from your side. This will help you know if he is genuinely interested in you or if you are just a convenience for him. However, there is no harm in you taking the initiative once in a while.
Let him like you and love you as yourself!

Ten Mistake Ladies Commonly Make While In A Serious Relationship

(1) Taking your Guy for granted:
Guys love attention too! Do things for your Guy. You may cook him a special dinner, arrange a romantic date, dress up for him (or dress down depending on the nature of your relationship), give him a surprise gift or do whatever you think he would like. Romantic gestures can play an important role in keeping your man happy. When your man is down or depressed, be his support and shoulder. Give him motivation or pampering when he needs it. (2) Not being Respectful and Honest: Give your man the respect he deserves and never belittle him in front of others. Hiding secrets from your Boyfriend can harm your relationship. Even if you have done something you regret, it is better to tell him than let him find on his own. Lies often get caught and he will lose all that trust he had on you.
(3) Trying to keep him away from his friends or Family: Are you someone who always looks for excuses to keep your Man away from his friends and family? Do you object when he tells that he wants to go out with his Buddies and insist that he spends time with you? If so, it�s time you change. Just understand that his friends and family are his part of life much before you. Be friendly with his family and friends but never cross your limits by being over friendly or dominating.
(4) Not understanding your Partner: One main characteristic of a good girlfriend is that she understands her partner well and her Boyfriend can rely on her to be there for him when he needs her. That is where good communication and spending quality time with your Guy regularly plays a vital role. Develop the comfort ability factor so that he feels at ease with you enough to share everything. Listen to his needs, worries and passions. Also trust him with your concerns and problems. Be supportive to your Guy�s Career and Hobbies. Understand his problems and pressures. Try to adapt to his likes and interests (This does not mean that you have to give up yours).
(5) Being Superficial: Don�t try to be someone whom you are not. Let your Guy see the real you.
(6) Comparing with Ex and talking of Past: Many girls commit the mistake of comparing their current Boyfriend with their Ex. This is one of the best things a girl can do if she wants to chase the Guy away. Even if you are playing the game to see how your Guy would react or if it was a harmless comparison made without thinking, your man would most probably take it as a sign that you have not fully moved on from your previous relationship. Even if he does not take it in that manner, comparisons are definitely going to hurt his ego and your relationship with him.
(7) Not giving enough time to the Relationship: Girls want stability in relationships. They want relationships to end in the altar rather than break ups. Do not start talking about marriage and children too fast in your relationship. Allow things to take its natural course. Cherish your time together and do not rush your Guy demanding commitment from him in the initial phases of a relationship. Just try to be optimistic and enjoy your romance than worry about future.
(8) Being clingy: Are you a clingy girlfriend? I don�t blame you, this is one major mistake many ladies commit. I have even known girls who go to the extent of stalking their guys. If you are constantly around your man or talking to him always on phone, you need to stop. I have even seen girls who keep wrapping their arms around the partner in public and private alike as if declaring to the world that, �He is my private property. Keep away!� Your partner may like your attention for some time but after that he might get annoyed. If you do not draw the line at constantly wanting to be around your Boyfriend, then he will look for ways to get away from you rather than spend his time with you.
(9) Not caring much about Appearance: Be presentable always. Make sure to look good and presentable in front of his family and friends. Dress decent without being trampy. When you are on a date out or spending time with him, make an effort to dress to impress. Take good care of your appearance and hygiene.
(10) Being too controlling: Allow your Man to make the first move. Men like to take the lead. Allow him to pursue you than the other way around. Let him initiate and plan the dates than you doing it from your side. This will help you know if he is genuinely interested in you or if you are just a convenience for him. However, there is no harm in you taking the initiative once in a while.
Let him like you and love you as yourself!

Ten Common Mistake Ladies Make While In A Serious Relationship

(1) Taking your Guy for granted:
Guys love attention too! Do things for your Guy. You may cook him a special dinner, arrange a romantic date, dress up for him (or dress down depending on the nature of your relationship), give him a surprise gift or do whatever you think he would like. Romantic gestures can play an important role in keeping your man happy. When your man is down or depressed, be his support and shoulder. Give him motivation or pampering when he needs it. (2) Not being Respectful and Honest: Give your man the respect he deserves and never belittle him in front of others. Hiding secrets from your Boyfriend can harm your relationship. Even if you have done something you regret, it is better to tell him than let him find on his own. Lies often get caught and he will lose all that trust he had on you.
(3) Trying to keep him away from his friends or Family: Are you someone who always looks for excuses to keep your Man away from his friends and family? Do you object when he tells that he wants to go out with his Buddies and insist that he spends time with you? If so, it�s time you change. Just understand that his friends and family are his part of life much before you. Be friendly with his family and friends but never cross your limits by being over friendly or dominating.
(4) Not understanding your Partner: One main characteristic of a good girlfriend is that she understands her partner well and her Boyfriend can rely on her to be there for him when he needs her. That is where good communication and spending quality time with your Guy regularly plays a vital role. Develop the comfort ability factor so that he feels at ease with you enough to share everything. Listen to his needs, worries and passions. Also trust him with your concerns and problems. Be supportive to your Guy�s Career and Hobbies. Understand his problems and pressures. Try to adapt to his likes and interests (This does not mean that you have to give up yours).
(5) Being Superficial: Don�t try to be someone whom you are not. Let your Guy see the real you.
(6) Comparing with Ex and talking of Past: Many girls commit the mistake of comparing their current Boyfriend with their Ex. This is one of the best things a girl can do if she wants to chase the Guy away. Even if you are playing the game to see how your Guy would react or if it was a harmless comparison made without thinking, your man would most probably take it as a sign that you have not fully moved on from your previous relationship. Even if he does not take it in that manner, comparisons are definitely going to hurt his ego and your relationship with him.
(7) Not giving enough time to the Relationship: Girls want stability in relationships. They want relationships to end in the altar rather than break ups. Do not start talking about marriage and children too fast in your relationship. Allow things to take its natural course. Cherish your time together and do not rush your Guy demanding commitment from him in the initial phases of a relationship. Just try to be optimistic and enjoy your romance than worry about future.
(8) Being clingy: Are you a clingy girlfriend? I don�t blame you, this is one major mistake many ladies commit. I have even known girls who go to the extent of stalking their guys. If you are constantly around your man or talking to him always on phone, you need to stop. I have even seen girls who keep wrapping their arms around the partner in public and private alike as if declaring to the world that, �He is my private property. Keep away!� Your partner may like your attention for some time but after that he might get annoyed. If you do not draw the line at constantly wanting to be around your Boyfriend, then he will look for ways to get away from you rather than spend his time with you.
(9) Not caring much about Appearance: Be presentable always. Make sure to look good and presentable in front of his family and friends. Dress decent without being trampy. When you are on a date out or spending time with him, make an effort to dress to impress. Take good care of your appearance and hygiene.
(10) Being too controlling: Allow your Man to make the first move. Men like to take the lead. Allow him to pursue you than the other way around. Let him initiate and plan the dates than you doing it from your side. This will help you know if he is genuinely interested in you or if you are just a convenience for him. However, there is no harm in you taking the initiative once in a while.
Let him like you and love you as yourself!

Ten Common Mistake Ladies Make While In A Serious Relationship

(1) Taking your Guy for granted:
Guys love attention too! Do things for your Guy. You may cook him a special dinner, arrange a romantic date, dress up for him (or dress down depending on the nature of your relationship), give him a surprise gift or do whatever you think he would like. Romantic gestures can play an important role in keeping your man happy. When your man is down or depressed, be his support and shoulder. Give him motivation or pampering when he needs it. (2) Not being Respectful and Honest: Give your man the respect he deserves and never belittle him in front of others. Hiding secrets from your Boyfriend can harm your relationship. Even if you have done something you regret, it is better to tell him than let him find on his own. Lies often get caught and he will lose all that trust he had on you.
(3) Trying to keep him away from his friends or Family: Are you someone who always looks for excuses to keep your Man away from his friends and family? Do you object when he tells that he wants to go out with his Buddies and insist that he spends time with you? If so, it�s time you change. Just understand that his friends and family are his part of life much before you. Be friendly with his family and friends but never cross your limits by being over friendly or dominating.
(4) Not understanding your Partner: One main characteristic of a good girlfriend is that she understands her partner well and her Boyfriend can rely on her to be there for him when he needs her. That is where good communication and spending quality time with your Guy regularly plays a vital role. Develop the comfort ability factor so that he feels at ease with you enough to share everything. Listen to his needs, worries and passions. Also trust him with your concerns and problems. Be supportive to your Guy�s Career and Hobbies. Understand his problems and pressures. Try to adapt to his likes and interests (This does not mean that you have to give up yours).
(5) Being Superficial: Don�t try to be someone whom you are not. Let your Guy see the real you.
(6) Comparing with Ex and talking of Past: Many girls commit the mistake of comparing their current Boyfriend with their Ex. This is one of the best things a girl can do if she wants to chase the Guy away. Even if you are playing the game to see how your Guy would react or if it was a harmless comparison made without thinking, your man would most probably take it as a sign that you have not fully moved on from your previous relationship. Even if he does not take it in that manner, comparisons are definitely going to hurt his ego and your relationship with him.
(7) Not giving enough time to the Relationship: Girls want stability in relationships. They want relationships to end in the altar rather than break ups. Do not start talking about marriage and children too fast in your relationship. Allow things to take its natural course. Cherish your time together and do not rush your Guy demanding commitment from him in the initial phases of a relationship. Just try to be optimistic and enjoy your romance than worry about future.
(8) Being clingy: Are you a clingy girlfriend? I don�t blame you, this is one major mistake many ladies commit. I have even known girls who go to the extent of stalking their guys. If you are constantly around your man or talking to him always on phone, you need to stop. I have even seen girls who keep wrapping their arms around the partner in public and private alike as if declaring to the world that, �He is my private property. Keep away!� Your partner may like your attention for some time but after that he might get annoyed. If you do not draw the line at constantly wanting to be around your Boyfriend, then he will look for ways to get away from you rather than spend his time with you.
(9) Not caring much about Appearance: Be presentable always. Make sure to look good and presentable in front of his family and friends. Dress decent without being trampy. When you are on a date out or spending time with him, make an effort to dress to impress. Take good care of your appearance and hygiene.
(10) Being too controlling: Allow your Man to make the first move. Men like to take the lead. Allow him to pursue you than the other way around. Let him initiate and plan the dates than you doing it from your side. This will help you know if he is genuinely interested in you or if you are just a convenience for him. However, there is no harm in you taking the initiative once in a while.
Let him like you and love you as yourself!